Allow Children to Be Who They Are Every Step of the Way

Jun 27, 2015 | Children & Parenting |

What would it be like if we lived in a world where every child was empowered to know that they know? To know that they can be and create anything they choose? A world where they are given access to the tools that would allow them to create that?

There are many decisions and judgments that we as parents make about our kids that limit what our children actually can become. Rather than living in the moment with their kids, many parents buy into the conventional model of parenting and they try to create a plan and a system for their children’s future. They think that they are making the “right” choice or decision for their children that will handle everything forever.

If you want to become a conscious parent, you have to be willing to erase all of your ideas of what you think your child must be.

Unfortunately a lot of us think our daughters are perfect, our sons are perfect, and they’re going to become something great. If they don’t, we begin to get disappointed. You either have to judge yourself or you have to judge them, either of which creates a sense of separation.

It’s important to recognize that your kid is who your kid is. It’s not about what you want them to be, what you think they ought to be or what you think they can be. You have to see them for who they are. It’s not up to you to determine who they are. That’s up to them, no matter how much you like or dislike their choices. They are the only ones who can choose to be who they are.

Please recognize that who your children are is who they choose to be, and if you can have that without judging it as right, wrong, good or bad, you allow them to step into everything that’s possible for them. As long as we have a judgment about what is good and what is bad, we limit what that is possible. If we don’t judge our kids, we allow them to be who they are every step of the way.

When I was a kid, people would say to me, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

I’d say, “Happy.”

And they’d say, “No son, what do you want to be when you grow up?”

“Happy.”

“No, no. Do you want to be a doctor, a lawyer, or an Indian chief?”

I’d say, “Yeah, as long as I’m happy.” For me, happiness was the target in life, not money, not success. None of those things.

And it’s what I want for my kids, too. The only thing I want is for them to be happy—to be joyful.

What would it be like if we lived in a world where every child was empowered to know that they know? To know that they can be and create anything they choose? A world where they are given access to the tools that would allow them to create that?

Access Consciousness is opening an online school called Access Possibilities School, September of 2015. If you’re interested and would like to know more or would like more tools you can use with your kids now, go to www.AccessPossibilitiesSchool.com.