If you’re not living from projections, expectations, separations, judgments and rejections (also known short as PESJR’s) you get to see what is in front of you and you get to change anything.
It’s a whole different world.
Projections and expectations are what you think someone else will do even if they aren’t going to do it. A projection would be “This man is perfect for me.” An expectation would be “He will have the same point of view about me that I have about him. He’ll think I’m perfect for him.”
Judgment is any fixed point of view or any conviction that someone or something has to be a certain way. Separation occurs once you do a judgment of any kind. You separate yourself from the person or thing you judge, even if it’s you. Rejection is dismissing or refusing something.
Whenever you are doing projection and expectation of any kind, you are separating, judging, and rejecting anything that would give you awareness. You’re eliminating your awareness.
I never have any projections, expectations, separations, judgments, or rejections of anyone. I am always perceiving rather than believing. I am always capable of adjusting according to the moment. I don’t believe what people say. I am aware of what’s coming out of their head. I am only surprised when they do what they say.
Most of us have a lot of things projected at us at an early age, and those projections and expectations can have adverse effects on our body and being. Before the age of two, you do not perceive any difference between you and your parents or the people around you, and you take on their thoughts, feelings, emotions, and points of view. Then when you reach adolescence and seek to rebel against your parents, you are also rebelling against you, because you’ve made those projections and expectations part of who and what you are.
One of the projections and expectations in this reality is that you have to get married and have 2.5 kids. You’re supposed to do things in a certain way. But you never could live by that, could you? What would it be like if you were willing to create from what you know instead of whatever everybody else projects and expects you should choose and be?
You’ve got to give up looking to the past, or to your experience, or to your projections and expectations. You’re expecting something to show up that doesn’t ever turn out to be true. Guess what? In order to create the pretense that it’s all going to turn out right, you’ve got to cut off your awareness. Is that how you want to live your life?
As long as you’re doing projections and expectations of anyone, you can never see what’s actually true.
If you have no points of view and no projections, expectations, separations, judgments, or rejections, you can be aware of everything and change pretty much anything.
Welcome to a totally different world.
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